Anal sex, enema, extreme practices - experience

Experiences and tips on anal sex, enemas and extreme anal practices. Information on the anatomy of the anus and the risks of anal sex.

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Anatomy and limits of the anus - length, width

An untrained person after a short stretch can handle a human penis or a 4cm thick toy to a depth of 15cm. This will pass through the anus (anus - the marking of the outlet), the anal canal 2.5-3.5cm with the external and internal sphincter and the rectum 10-12cm. Next is the sigmoid colon (ace-shaped fork) - sharp movement to the left from the human perspective (when looking at the picture, sharp movement to the right). This causes resistance for the inserted toy and we feel as if there is another sphincter.

However, the clamps are only around the anal canal, and further on there is only a thin smooth muscle around the intestines, which spontaneously moves unprocessed substances through the intestine. That is why in the vast majority of porn films we only see dildos with a thickness of over 4.5 cm inserted to a depth of about 15 cm.

An untrained 160cm tall woman can push a toy about 3,5 cm in diameter through the first bend of the sigmoid colon, a man about 4 cm, a trained woman about 4,5-5 cm and a trained man about 5 cm-6 cm (more are rather extreme). Trained actresses can temporarily pull the sigmoid colon (and part of the descending colon) up and into the middle of the abdomen. The next boundary is at about 30-35cm depth, when the sigmoid colon curls up into the descending colon. Through this second bend of the sigmoid colon you can push a tool about half the thickness of the previous bend. The irritation of this second fold causes very intense sensations. Very thin dildos up to 2,5-3cm can be inserted up to 70cm deep. The thick casing is about 1,5 meters long.

The anal opening can be stretched to a width of 6cm after weeks or months of training. After years of persistent training, some exceptional people can accommodate a 12-13cm diameter device.

Reasons for anal sex?

Variety, male dominance, female submissiveness, narrower opening. Irritation of the smooth muscles inside the body will cause intense sensations in both sexes, regardless of submissiveness or dominance. Flexibility, mastery of multiple partners or toys, rest for the vagina.

Coital and oral sex is considered the normal standard. Anal sex is tried by about 60% heterosexual couples in developed countries. But only 15-20% heterosexual couples do anal sex actively - e.g. once a week, according to our survey of about 100 couples aged 15-45 from different social groups. Mostly at the urging of the man. A similar percentage of men (even heterosexual) welcome anal sex in a passive role. But passive anal sex can be pleasurable for any woman or man. Both women and men achieve anal orgasms, but usually while simultaneously teasing other intimate areas.

Anal sex can be prevented by psychological resistance - morality, hygiene, fear of pain or fear of perceived negative effects. Sometimes it can also be the partners' time, as more time is needed for anal sex. Insertion into the anus also requires a relatively higher penile hardness than insertion into the vagina.

Thus, anal sex can be an extra standard from a woman's point of view, for which something extra can be asked. Anal sex is not a natural sexual practice. There's no point in convincing your partner of that, because it's just a bare fact. Clearly biologically and, for most, socially. Accept that your partner is doing something extra for you and it will go easier. Read more How to get a wife or girlfriend for anal sex.

Getting started with anal sex and tips

First, ideally try it on yourself with an artificial penis. If you are trying it as a couple, choose at least the top position as a passive partner, where you regulate the depth of penetration yourself. By gradually stretching while respecting the body's limit (pain), you will avoid involuntary contractions and relax the sphincters faster and without painful consequences or injury. For this reason, we do not recommend or sell numbing products.

Sometimes a deeper shift simply takes time, usually in a matter of days or a few weeks. And regular training. In the absence of training, the body returns to the basic limits of stretching. In any case, there is no need to worry about leaking excretions. This is pure myth. And it is not so with extreme rectal stretching either.

Considering that even preschoolers routinely excrete 4.5cm thick shit, a normal adult should be able to handle the average human penis within a few days.

If you feel the need to go to the toilet before or during sex, do it. With a medium (over 10cm) or deep insertion (over 20cm), the colon is normally partially filled with stool ready for expulsion. This is not necessarily an indication of the need to go to the toilet. However, these remnants in the rectum tear the mucosa when irritated. If they appear on the penis in more than a dropful, clean it and, according to subjective well-being, go to the toilet or perform an enema.

Choosing the right anal lubricant

Most water-based gels, even those that are not perfumed, labeled "anal" or "natural", etc., have an anti-mold disinfectant additive to make the gel last for its guaranteed shelf life. This additive burns in the vagina, but especially in the more sensitive anal tissue. The anal clenches and tries to squeeze out the lubricant. Some people are resistant to this, but don't count on it. Always test the gel at least on yourself before giving it to your partner and then on your partner. Be prepared for a situation where your chosen gel doesn't suit her or him.

In our sexshop, water-based lubricants without burning disinfectant additives are lubricant additives Lona Strawberry, Lona Raspberry, Waterglide Cherry, Waterglide Artificial Sperm, Male Lubricant Powder. These can be used for all kinds of sex and all kinds of toys. Unperfumed silicone or oil-based gels generally do not burn, but may interfere with condoms.

For anal sex without a condom, lubricating creams are best. It is necessary to distinguish between oil-based anal lubricants (excellent), simple lubricating oils (very bad - too thin layer does not protect the tissue from injury) and fat creams - vaseline, fat (not slippery enough or too thin layer). See more Test anal lubricating creams. Lubricating creams should be combined with a little deer tallow before introducing the lubricating cream. Deer tallow unlike other lubricants, it creates a long-lasting protective layer (several hours) that prevents the wounded tissue from drying out. This accelerates healing and reduces the risk of inflammation of the injured tissue.

TIP: However, for rougher anal sex and the insertion of larger objects, we recommend a higher quality lubricant in the form of a non-perfumed anal lubricant without burning disinfectants (Elbow Grease Original Cream or Lubricating Cream Fist in various sizes).

Side effects, negatives and positives of anal sex

Anal sex is more demanding in terms of hygiene. Loose food debris in the bowel means higher risks of vaginal or bladder inflammation for both partners. The mucous membranes of the anus and rectum and the colon are more susceptible to injury (also due to sometimes relatively sharp food debris, e.g. nuts) and thus to the transmission of STDs. Scientific studies have refuted the common assumption that there is a higher risk of incontinence due to anal sex. The anus can be enlarged by gradual, painless stretching (after very intensive training for several hours a day, a prolapse can even be trained), but the sphincter will continue to perform its function reliably.

Haemorrhoids and fissures (fissuring)

In connection with anal sex, lay people often talk about the risk of hemorrhoids. Basically, people are much more likely to have problems with fissures (fissuring), which mechanically injure the muscle tissue of the anal sphincter, for example with large poop or sharp food scraps. Fissures occur with hurried painful anal sex, but more often with excessive handling of large toys.

With respectful anal sex, this shouldn't happen. If anal sex is done well, i.e. gradually and painlessly, the risk of hemorrhoids or fissures will be reduced (see below).

In the case of more severe disturbance of the rectum or intestines, light mucous-like structures (not to be confused with lubricant residues), sometimes even resembling the intestines or skin, may reappear in the faeces. The increased mucus in the intestine has a protective and insulating function. It probably indicates inflammation of the intestinal mucosa. And also that you are going well over your current size limit or using the aids in an inappropriate or aggressive manner! Mucus has a protective healing function. But if you don't have major pain, it should heal within 2 weeks.

Anal sex as health prevention

Anal sex or dilatation with aids can be preventive against fissures even with careful dilatation and the application of an insulating cream that promotes healing (see below) and can speed up the healing of fissures. It can teach you to relax the sphincter during expulsion, and the tissue injured by the fissure will abrade less and heal more quickly with such gentle expulsion. We know plenty of people with hemorrhoids (a common health problem in older age), but no one with hemorrhoids who regularly engage in (passive) anal sex, e.g. once a week or month. It makes sense - hemorrhoids are treated with lubrication and massage even in the first stage.

One of our customers was advised by his doctor to exercise his rectum with aids as a prevention of fissuring. The feedback of this customer: if I don't exercise with anal toys for a couple of weeks, it gets worse. Minor injuries usually heal in a day or two. But if you introduce a gadget too big despite major pain, and you are not gradually trained to do so, you will tear the mucous membrane. The injured area then hurts on expulsion for about a week and heals completely within a few weeks. Massage the haemorrhoid with a suitable non-perfumed oily cream, e.g. with deer tallow promotes healing. The wound in the intestinal mucosa does not dry out, reducing the risk of further damage from food debris and the risk of inflammation. In the elderly and people with impaired healing (e.g. diabetics) this will take longer.

Bleeding during anal sex

After anal play, the mucous membrane may bleed a little (discoloration of toilet paper, with a stronger degree even discoloured stools in a certain place) and the pain or false urge to go to the toilet is not exceptional in the beginning and should stop within 1-3 days. However, it still indicates incorrect performance of anal sex, i.e. beyond your current physical limits or too quickly without sufficient relaxation. Heavier bleeding should not occur with respectful anal sex.

When training with larger or longer objects, you can overdo it in the excitement, despite warnings of pain. Heavy bleeding is when blood drips to lightly "runs" from you briefly when pushing and it doesn't hurt. In this condition, it may not yet be necessary to see a doctor and it should stop by day 3. This does not mean that you have to get this far. But if you are stupid, it occurs, and there are no other signals that something is wrong (temperature, nausea, more pain even outside of secretions), the body should be able to handle it. If something is wrong like more pain, temperature, nausea or other extreme symptoms, go to the doctor.

Possible discomfort after anal sex

They appear during the first attempts with the penis or then during intensive training with toys 5cm thick or more. This is manifested by the urge to go to the toilet, when in fact you do not need to. They are most often caused by a slight straining of the musculature of the external and more often the internal sphincter around the anal canal (about 2.5-3.5cm from the anus) and the smooth muscle around the rectum (another 10-12cm inside the body), or the smooth muscle around the colon (the last part of the colon). In human terms, you have slightly strained these muscles as in the expulsion of a particularly bulky excrement and have temporarily slightly impaired traction of the intestinal musculature. The muscles may even be slightly contracted and therefore pushing.

The smooth muscle cannot be controlled by will and you can get relief and relaxation from a warm shower or spontaneous contractions of this smooth muscle during orgasm (without introducing it into the anus). You can also do light exercises, clenching and relaxing the gluteal muscles and sphincter, but there is no point in pushing, this will only further traumatise the muscles. As a rule, it will return to normal within 1 or 2 days. With more intense training with aids over 25 cm you can also cause yourself slight constipation. It should be back to normal within 14 days at the most. The return to normal can be aided by light enemas in addition to the method above.

Bruise on the anus

A bruise on the anus is rare in normal people. It can arise as a result of pressure, for example, if you sit on a dildo for a long time. Basically, it doesn't hurt, you just have a coloured anus.

Anal pins

Inflatable toys will allow even beginners to painlessly taste the feeling of great fulfillment. But the rubber they're made of is relatively skin-pulling. Cheaper inflatable toys have a thin rubber more easily undisturbed by hard stool debris (peanuts, etc.) and a plastic valve that lets air out. An alternative is a pin with gradually widening steps (2-4 cm in diameter, 3-6 cm for the more advanced) that will release the sphincter better. For the advanced, massive wedges for expansion (7-15 cm) or massive dildos up to 55 cm long are available. See more Ideal toy hardness 7.5HC (relaxed muscle hardness) and its advantages.

Combination of vaginal and anal sex

Combining vaginal and anal sex without proper washing, as they do in porn movies, is spectacular not only in porn movies, but also in reality. It's a powerful turn-on for both man and woman. This technique always increases the risk of vaginal inflammation. The absence of washing in a short time after sex means inflammation almost certainly, so do not combine anal and vaginal sex where it is not possible to wash well afterwards - in nature, on the road, etc.

Enema

In some sex shops one can read false information about the healing and cleansing effects of colon cleansing and, after training, possibly also small intestine cleansing. A healthy body is adapted to properly rid itself of excreted food residues. An enema with drinking water at a reasonable rate and frequency is not harmful to the body. Enemas are not necessary for normal anal play with a penis up to 15cm in size (sometimes not even up to 20cm depending on the actual "fullness" of the body), or a light enema is sufficient and expelled immediately.

Drinking water can be used. Other liquids, e.g. milk, are less suitable from a hygienic point of view, but the body can handle them. It can be infused special irrigators - filling balloon, syringe, hanging bag, most conveniently showersbut a plastic kitchen a funnel with a well-rounded edge. The large 350ml or 500ml syringe has worked best for us. Lubricate the enema aid.

TIP: If it's not hot, have a sweater or large dry towel or a hot air heater handy. It is necessary to be warm while doing this. You are not moving, you are only partially clothed and the toilet is usually not one of the warmest rooms. The amount to be filled is individual to the person and their current condition.

Deep enema

In hospitals, they rather do a strong enema, what the body can handle, for example, 0.5 to 0.75l. At home, it only makes sense if you want the size of the inserted devices to attack your limits, or on its own as a SM/SubDom practice or as an adjunct to sexual play, where bowels filled with warm water relax and intensify sensations during genital stimulation. Can be enhanced with an anal plug. The most effective - shortest and least demanding deep enema technique is lubrication and deep insertion of a tubular anal douche and simultaneous engorgement and expulsion (about 10 to 15 minutes). Other techniques take up to an hour and are unnecessarily more irritating.

When the water from a deeper enema is expelled, the body tends to continue the contractions, but the water from the bowel has not yet "reached" the rectum, i.e. you have contractions that do not result in immediate expulsion of water or excreta. These contractions need to be slightly suppressed "against the will of the body" (calm the sphincter and bowel) and leave the opening open for the moment of actual need. Over time, you will develop a technique that suits you (e.g. combined partial and forceful pushing to manage involuntary contractions) and you will be able to do this more quickly without discomfort. At the end of elimination, it is advisable to push while standing and cover the anus with toilet paper. This will usually expel the last of the residue that would otherwise be released during sexual play.

An untrained man can hold from 0.75 to 1.5, a trained average height man could handle 2 to 2.5l, where the limit will give you a hint of pain in your gut (like you want to vomit). See for yourself what you can handle. After an enema the anus is more sensitive to abrasion, give it plenty of a suitable lubricant or cream.

As a rule, a deep enema will slightly reduce the appetite for extreme training and the pleasantness of introducing aids. Therefore, use it only if the introduced aid is pushing you due to insufficient emptying. You will know this by feel.

Extreme anal practices

Aids: TIME 1h or 2h every day, warm room, enema shower hose, deer tallow (a very thick cream), possibly an unperfumed water-based or silicone-based lubricant (no oil-based lubricant - too thin - cuts the mucous membrane), soft anal plugs or dildos, a towel underneath

After the enema, insert some unperfumed deer tallow into the anus. It makes the walls of the rectum and intestines slippery even if the standard lubricant gel dries. Lubricant deer tallow remains in the body after the workout and helps tissue healing. Use a good quality oil-based lubricant without harsh disinfectants as your main lubricant (see above Choosing the right anal lubricant). To start with, we recommend introducing a long thin (e.g. double) dildo to relax the anus and the muscles around the anus and bowel. This will also lubricate the mucous membrane with deer tallow. Only when moving on to thicker dildos can we add classic gel to the deer tallow if it requires more slipperiness. One can alternate between thin long pins for stretching deep and thick shorter ones for stretching wide. This will give the mucous membrane and the muscle around it time to relax.

You can see from the initial picture that the intestine turns to the left behind the rectum from the person's own view. But basically you never know what angle the end of your inserted dildo is to the actual section of tissue. You simply push the dildo in the direction where it doesn't hurt or hurts the least.

If you go through the pain, you will get better results in the short term, but the subsequent healing will cost you more than if you train with no or minimal pain. Pins thicker than 5cm must be very soft, otherwise it is a waste of time and a higher risk of tissue damage.

TIP: Read more about Ideal toy hardness 7.5HC (relaxed muscle hardness) and its advantages.

It will take you about 45 minutes to stretch properly, even with the enema. You will move or masturbate while doing this and end up very warm similar to prolonged sex or brisk walking. You will also be left with a light mess and feel like cleaning it up first and then going to the shower in peace. The cleaning can wait. Shower and dress first to keep warm and comfortable. Also, don't go cleaning up after your run.

Pulling the rectum into the prolapse with a vacuum pump

It will provide an interesting sight - temporary anal prolapse even to the less trained. It is necessary to dose in moderation and safely know how to drop the arousal from the pump (reduce the vacuum). Try it on yourself first. The line between pleasurable and painful is relatively close. Even a low-powered pump is sufficient.

What not to try

If you push the anal toy all the way into the bowel past the bend of the sigmoid colon (e.g. with another dildo), it can get stuck there. It pushes a lot, but you can't go to the toilet like with constipation. Our tester's body dealt with it after about 90 minutes. It was the first time he was really scared despite many drastic experiences. It was just a matter of letting it run its course and time and it took care of itself. If you still want to try it, push the anal toy with the wider end forward so that the narrower end in the sigmoid colon can come out more easily.

Risk of staining the toy with excrement

Refers to light PVC toys. TPE and silicone toys basically don't suffer from it. Condom is unnecessarily expensive to protect toys. Condom also tears more in the aggressive and confined space of the rectum. Especially on a gadget that is usually stiffer than a human penis and almost always on a large gadget. The best anal lubricants, among others, are not even usable with a condom (see Anal lubricant test). We recommend an enema and one teething toy that partially scoops and pulls and partially pushes the excrement back into the intestines. These first excretions stain the most. Toys are extra susceptible after consuming large amounts of alcohol, especially red wine.

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