How to get a woman for anal sex
For starters, you have to admit that either your partner likes it and it's completely automatic or it's a long run with a lot of incentives and negotiations. This article is about the much more common option - your partner refusing anal sex.
Despite the fact that nowadays it is standard for a man to satisfy a woman and for a woman to try to give a man the pleasure that porn actresses give porn actors, anal sex is not a common thing among couples. Yes, 60% women and 90% men have tried anal sex. But trying something and doing something are two very different things in anal sex. No more than 20% heterosexual couples have anal sex relatively regularly, at least once a month, and no more than 10% heterosexual couples have anal sex really regularly, i.e. on average once a week.
Most often it is recommended that the man should not talk about it. He should regularly try and wait for the right moment when his partner will give in. To cheat on her a little. For me (20 years of experience with two long-term female partners refusing anal sex) this hasn't worked. The partners usually made their objections clear, and this would put the man in the position of a supplicant who does not respect his partner's will. This is never a good situation :), but it doesn't work either.
There is no universal or miracle method of persuasion to anal sex. Rather, a combination of the stimuli and methods described below. It takes a lot of diligence and it's not for everyone. Most guys don't have the energy for it and are happy with just mouth and vagina or even without :).
Accept the status of unnatural, unclean and exceptional practices
Some people, about 40% men and most women, perceive anal sex as something unnatural and unclean. There's not much point in refuting them, as such a perception is basically objective. For example, while some species of monkeys do occasionally engage in anal sex, even for them it is not a natural or preferred form of sex. There is certainly more messiness in anal sex than in vaginal or oral sex. Statistical and social argumnets will clearly be against anal sex. Better to accept the fact that it is a slightly dirty and superior sexual practice. It doesn't help to put friends as the standard either. Rather the opposite - normal anal sex is not the standard. For every 1 pair of friends practicing anal sex, there are 10 non-practicing friends.
You can't argue on health grounds. Anal sex can prevent and treat minor haemorrhoids, but can cause urinary tract inflammation if hygiene is lacking. More about the positives and negatives of anal sex will tell you great article about anal sex.
My own example - teasing the male anus - doesn't help
In addition to some 5-10% gay men, there may be another 20-30% heterosexual men who enjoy teasing the male anus. When masturbating or by a woman (pegging). However, these men do not have a significant advantage over men who reject their own (passive) anal. This is because women who reject anal perceive such men as sex maniacs and do not believe that anal sex can or should be pleasurable for a normal decent woman.
Paying for anal sex - a very effective strategy
Offering and, more importantly, actually paying money to your own wife or girlfriend for anal sex is highly effective. It's not about the money itself, which will end up staying in the family anyway, sometimes more or sometimes less. Offering money to your own wife for a particular sexual practice will show her that you are extremely interested in such a seuxual practice. It will excite and flatter her. It has a lot of other positive effects. The wife will realize that she is also there to grant you wishes because you are granting her wishes. Part of it may even corrupt her in a good way. If she occasionally has free sex with you to please you, even though she doesn't fully want to at that moment, she is only one step away from doing a similar thing with an anal.
Paid sex also suspends the rules of morality. It's not a standard, but an extreme where more is allowed. In the mind of the woman, even the "dirty dirty" anal sex is allowed. Actually paying the money - completing the deal - is important, at least for the first few months. The woman will realize that it is not a game, but that it is really very important to you. For us, it actually opened up anal sex. But it was still a once-a-fortnight event, and it remained that way for several years after the abolition of paying for anal sex.
Attractiveness
Attractiveness in the context of anal sex - a superior sexual practice - cannot be judged by conventional standards. For 90% women, excessive money or good physique may not be essential. How do I know? It's simple. Only 10% men and under have relatively large money and only 10% men aged 35 and over do not have large bellies. But if you want something extra - anal sex, yourself needs to offer something extra.
Not many people get to the big money. Let's leave that aside.
However, you can exercise. It is easy to say, but harder to do. Especially at the age of 40, when you have so many other responsibilities. But it's worth it, not just for anal sex, but for your health and self-esteem. So it's not such a sacrifice. And ask yourself - how many of your friends and colleagues aged 35-50 don't have a bigger belly button? Maybe 10%. Yes, that's exactly the number of couples who routinely practice anal sex...
Know how to talk to women. Either you have it in you or it comes with age and experience. Unfortunately, television gives us men a lot of bad advice about flirting with women. The trying asshole, the wannabe cool guy, the unavailable tough guy or the charming dude. The modern man should express interest (careful not to confuse this with confession - that's really useless crap forcing commitment), have fun in the process, and expect no more from a woman than that they laugh together. I.e. no "debt" for effort, commitment, etc. And also not to be afraid of something going wrong and to experiment occasionally, to give the woman a little push.
If you maintain your body and know how to talk to women, you will be more physically pleasing and fun for your wife. You'll entice her more easily into superior sexual intimacy. Further, other women will be interested in you, at least in communicating with you. This excites and disturbs your wife at the same time and puts pressure on her to perform above standard.
The uniqueness and ego of a woman
It's pretty easy to play at not wanting the average woman. But an exceptional woman who gives her man exceptional service as a porn actress. Similarly, today, if a man doesn't make a woman orgasm, he's just a loser socially :), even though many couples, and I dare say most, function without a female orgasm. This method works quite a bit, but rather supportively in combination with other methods. And it has one more drawback. If you demand an exceptional woman, you should offer something exceptional yourself.
BDSM play and sex role play
BDSM play enhances submissiveness and dominance and sometimes hurts. It teaches a woman that the minor pain she feels even during anal sex is not detrimental to pleasure. Unlike anal, it usually doesn't require any special effort. Painless games to enhance submissiveness and dominance can have a similar effect, showing that one is sometimes for the pleasure of the other and vice versa.
Trading, Not only give, but also take
This method works very well, perhaps best of all, but only after many years of relationship. And it really must be your wife's great desire. If you have something your wife extremely wants, and you don't want to give it to her just for love.
I can't judge how common or exceptional this is, but if you have it, it works extremely well. My wife wants fidelity. She doesn't 99% loyalty with heart, time, money (exact count, I've been naughty about once every six months (more like once a year)). For the record, my wife has always had absolute freedom and I would even like it if she had someone else occasionally. But she won't hear of it. My wife says I'm a sex hamster. It's true, I'm an animal. I tell her, "You're a slob too. You know I don't care about money or things, but freedom is very important to me. You have 99% of me and you want 100%. If I am to be a caged slave, you will pay, pay a lot." I have lost my freedom, but anal sex is no longer a rare event for reward.
In time, such waves will subside. The stronger partner, the one who gives more (I'm not talking about money at all), will eventually learn to take in a balanced way and the weaker partner will learn to give more. If the stronger partner takes too little, he gets frustrated and the weaker partner doesn't appreciate him. At worse, he takes too much. Usually one of the couple always gives more than they take. There is no need to completely balance it out. However, severely imbalanced situations will kill the relationship.
Be prepared
While vaginal and oral sex does not require that much preparation and experience, anal intercourse is more demanding and it is advisable to read about it and ideally try it out on yourself first. You also need to choose suitable sexual lubricantmost gels are unsuitable for anal sex, including gels designed specifically for anal sex. A smaller size can also help you get started. anal plug. More about anal sex in our article Anal sex, enema, extreme anal practices and in the article Anal Lubricant Cream Test.
What you will be dealing with
You'll be pushing a woman into something she doesn't want. You'll actually be a beggar, blackmailer or trader and that's partly how you'll be perceived by the friends you talk to about it. Your wife will tell you not to talk about it all the time. She'll be more afraid of it then. That doesn't work very well. The longer you don't have it, the more you bring it up in your speech.
Most of you will be wondering, should we give up anal sex? Being a good, selfless husband or boyfriend. That's your decision. I've never asked myself that question. Either I'm selfish or I've given a lot. That's another story, and a long one. For me, it has always been about not being discouraged by the above. Just like your wife wants you to be faithful and constantly checks up on you. Or your wife has other desires and makes you feel those desires more often than you would like or than your capabilities. In love, you simply have to give but also take. Otherwise, it doesn't end well.
Your opinion
Share your opinion or experience. We are interested in what feminists might have to say. Although it doesn't seem like it from the article, women's rights movements are sympathetic. Including positive discrimination against women to offset natural discrimination. These are not over-the-top woke movements like the sometimes hysterical LGBT support on Netflix. Women's rights movements do useful things for society. For example, Me Too or the right to breastfeed in public in Europe, the right to drive a car in Saudi Arabia, or many lesser known projects.
JUDr. Ing. Vladimír Koranda, Ph.D.
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Be that as it may, it's really very bizarre, extra intimate, but still real and only with a partner who is receptive to the subject... that's probably a start, but it's up to you if you're willing to talk about it