Experiences and tips for anal sex, enemas and extreme anal practices. Information on the anatomy of the anus and the risks of anal sex.
Anatomy and limits of anal - length, width
After a short stretch, an untrained person can handle a human penis or a 4 cm thick toy to a depth of 15 cm. It passes through the anus (anus - the designation of the opening), the anal canal 2.5-3.5 cm with the external and internal sphincter and the rectum (rectum) 10-12 cm. This is followed by the sigmoid colon (ace-shaped loop) – a sharp movement to the left from a person's point of view (a sharp movement to the right when looking at the picture). It creates resistance for the introduced toy and we feel as if there is another sphincter.
However, the sphincters are only around the anal canal and beyond that there is only thin smooth muscle around the intestines, which spontaneously moves unprocessed substances through the body in the intestine. Therefore, in the vast majority of porn films, we see dildos over 4.5 cm thick inserted only to a depth of approx. 15 cm.
An untrained woman with a height of 160 cm can push through a toy approx. 3.5 cm in diameter with the first bend of the sigmoid colon, a man approx. 4 cm, a trained woman approx. 4.5-5 cm and a trained man approx. 5 cm-6 cm (more is rather extreme). Trained actresses can temporarily pull the sigmoid colon (and part of the descending colon) up and into the middle of the abdomen. The next border is approximately at a depth of 30–35 cm, when the sigmoid colon turns upwards into the descending tract (descending colon). Through this second bend of the sigmoid colon, you can push the device about half the thickness of the previous bend. Stimulation of this second bend produces very intense sensations. A very thin dildo of up to 2.5-3 cm can be inserted to a depth of up to 70 cm. The large intestine is approximately 1.5 meters long.
After weeks or months of training, the anal opening can be widened with a device with a diameter of 6 cm. After years of persistent training, some exceptional people can hold a device with a diameter of 12-13 cm.
Reasons for anal sex?
Variety, male dominance, female submissiveness, narrower opening. The stimulation of the smooth muscle inside the body will cause intense sensations in both sexes, regardless of submissiveness or dominance. Flexible, handling multiple partners or toys, rest for the vagina.
Coital and oral sex is considered the normal standard. Anal sex is practiced by about 60% heterosexual couples of developed countries. Mostly at the instigation of a man. Approximately only 20-25% women initiate it. A similar percentage of men (even heterosexuals) welcome anal sex in a passive role. But passive anal sex can be pleasurable for any woman or man. Both women and men achieve anal orgasms, but mostly with simultaneous stimulation of other intimate places.
Anal sex can be prevented by psychological resistance - morals, hygiene, fear of pain or fear of supposed negative effects. Sometimes it can also be partners' time, because anal sex takes more time. Insertion into the anus also requires a relatively higher hardness of the penis than insertion into the vagina.
From a woman's point of view, anal sex can be above standard, for which something extra can be requested. Anal sex is not a natural sexual practice. There's no point in trying to convince your partner about it, because it's just a plain fact. Clearly biologically and mostly socially. Approach the fact that your partner does something extra for you, and it will go easier. More article How to get a wife or girlfriend for anal sex.
The beginnings of anal sex
First, ideally, try on yourself with an artificial penis. If you are trying as a couple, choose at least the top position as a passive partner, where you can regulate the depth of penetration yourself. By gradually stretching, while respecting the body's limit (pain), you will avoid involuntary contractions and release the sphincter faster and without painful consequences or injury. For this reason, we do not recommend and do not sell anesthetic preparations.
Sometimes a deeper shift simply needs time, usually in the order of days or a few weeks. And regular training. In the absence of training, the body returns to the basic stretching limits. In any case, there is no need to fear that you will have problems with the leakage of excreted substances. This is pure myth. And this is not the case with extreme stretching of the anus.
Considering that even preschoolers routinely excrete 4.5cm thick poo, a normal adult should be able to handle the average human penis within a few days.
Choosing the right gel
Most water-based gels, even those unscented, with the label "anal" or "natural" etc. have a disinfectant additive against fungi so that the gel lasts for the entire guaranteed shelf life. This ingredient burns in the vagina, but especially in the more sensitive tissue of the anus. The anus clenches and tries to push the lubricant out. Some people are resistant to it, but don't count on it. Always test the gel first on yourself before giving it to your partner and then on your partner as well. Be prepared for the situation that the gel you selected does not fit her or him.
In our sex shop, water-based lubricants without burning additives are lubricants Lona strawberry, Lona raspberry, a J-lube. These can be used for all types of sex and all types of toys. Unperfumed silicone-based gels usually do not burn, but they can damage the condom. Vaseline or vaseline-based gels are best for anal sex without a condom, ideally LIPSALVE. Due to its higher stiffness compared to ordinary gels, deer tallow is better introduced deep into the anus, during sex it protects the tissue with a thicker layer and after sex, unlike ordinary gels and other vaseline-based gels, it contributes to tissue healing. We do not recommend oil-based lubricants - they are too thin and cut the mucosa. If you feel the need to go to the bathroom before or during sex, do it. With medium (over 10 cm) or deep insertion (over 20 cm), the large intestine is usually partially filled with stool ready for elimination. This is not necessarily an indication of the need to go to the toilet. However, these residues in the anus tear the mucosa when irritated. If it appears on the penis in more than a droplet quantity, clean it and, depending on your subjective well-being, go to the toilet or perform an enema.
TIP: A normal cheap larger gel 130ml for 4 Euro will be enough for 30 regular sexual intercourse, but only for 2 extreme workouts. Lubricant powder J – Lube 300 grams is not only extra cheap, but this small box will last you a few months (with water up to 25 liters of lubricant).
Side effects, negatives and positives of anal sex
Anal sex is more demanding on hygiene. Released food residues in the intestine mean a higher risk of inflammation of the vagina or bladder of both partners. The mucous membrane of the anus and rectum and large intestine is more susceptible to injury (even as a result of sometimes relatively sharp food residues, e.g. nuts) and thus also to the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Scientific studies disprove the widely held assumption of a higher risk of incontinence as a result of anal sex. The anus can be enlarged by gradual painless stretching (prolapse can even be trained after very intensive training for several hours a day), but the sphincter will continue to perform its function reliably.
Hemorrhoids and fissures - anal sex as a health prevention
In connection with anal sex, lay people often talk about the risk of hemorrhoids. In principle, people have much more frequent problems with cracks (fissures), which mechanically injure the muscle tissue of the anal sphincter, for example with larger poop or sharp food residues. In fact, if anal sex is done well, that is. gradually and painlessly, on the contrary, it reduces the risk of hemorrhoids or cracks. Anal sex or dilation with devices can also speed up the healing of cracks. It can teach you to relax the sphincter while excreting, and the injured tissue to crack will rub less and heal faster with such a more gentle excrement. We know a lot of people with hemorrhoids (a common health problem in older age), but no one with hemorrhoids who would regularly have (passive) anal sex, e.g. once a week or a month. It makes sense - even in the first stage, hemorrhoids are treated with lubrication and massage. One of our customers was advised by a doctor to exercise the anus with devices to prevent fissures. Feedback from that customer: if I don't practice with anal toys for a few weeks, it gets worse. Minor injuries usually heal in a day or two. But if, despite the greater pain, you introduce the device too large, and you are not gradually trained for it, you will tear the mucous membrane. The injured area will then be sore during discharge for about a week and will heal completely within a few weeks. Hemorrhoid massage with deer tallow or greasy cream promotes healing. It will take longer for the elderly and people with impaired healing (eg diabetics).
Bleeding during anal sex
After anal play, the mucous membrane may bleed slightly (discoloration of toilet paper, in a stronger degree also colored stool in a certain place), and pain or a false urge to go to the toilet is not an exception in the beginning and should stop within 1-3 days. However, it still indicates incorrect execution of anal sex, i.e. beyond your current physical limits or too quickly without sufficient relaxation. Heavier bleeding should not occur during considerate anal sex. When training with larger or longer objects, you can overdo it in excitement despite the pain warning. Heavy bleeding is when blood drips or "flows" briefly when you push and it doesn't hurt. In this condition it may not be necessary to see a doctor yet and it should stop on the 3rd day. That doesn't mean you have to get here. But if you are stupid, it will happen and there are no other signals that something is wrong (temperature, nausea, more pain even outside of excretion), the body should be able to handle it. If something is wrong such as severe pain, temperature, nausea or other extreme symptoms, go to the doctor.
Possible discomfort after anal sex
They appear during the first experiments with the penis or then during intensive training with toys 5 cm thick and more. They show the urge to go to the toilet, when you don't really need to. They are most often caused by mild strain on the muscles of the outer and more often inner sphincter around the anus canal (approx. 2.5-3.5 cm from the anus) and smooth muscles around the anus (another approx. 10-12 cm inside the body), or smooth muscles around the colon (last part). large intestine). Popularly speaking, you have slightly strained these muscles as if you were pushing out particularly voluminous excrement, and you have temporarily slightly disturbed the traction of the intestinal muscle. The muscles can also be slightly contracted and therefore push. In principle, smooth muscle cannot be controlled by will and relief, and a warm shower or spontaneous contractions of this smooth muscle during orgasm (without insertion into the anus) will give you relaxation. It is also possible to easily train, tighten and relax the gluteal muscles and the sphincter, but there is no point in pushing, so you would only further traumatize the muscles. This will usually return to normal within 1 or 2 days. With more intense training with aids over 25 cm, you can also cause a slight constipation. It should be back to normal within 14 days at the latest. In addition to the methods above, the return to the normal state can also be supported by light enemas.
The bruising on the anus is exceptional in ordinary people. It can be caused by bruising, eg if you sit on a dildo for a long time. Basically, it doesn't hurt, you just have a colored anal.
Inflatable toys they will allow even beginners to painlessly taste the feeling of great fulfillment. But the rubber from which they are made relatively pulls on the skin. Cheaper inflatable toys have a thin rubber more easily undisturbed by hard stool remnants (nuts, etc.) and a plastic valve that releases air. An alternative is a pin with gradually expanding steps (2-4 cm in diameter, for more advanced 3 to 6 cm), which better releases the sphincter. Advanced have at their disposal massive wedges for stretching (7-15 cm) or massive dildos with a length of up to 55 cm. See more The ideal hardness of the toy 7.5HC (hardness of relaxed muscle) and its advantages.
Combination of vaginal and anal sex
Combining vaginal and anal sex without proper washing, as they do in porn films, is effective not only in porn films, but also in reality. It is a powerful booster for both men and women. This technique always increases the risk of vaginitis. Absence of washing in a short time after sex almost certainly means inflammation, therefore do not combine anal and vaginal sex where it is not possible to wash well afterwards - in nature, on trips, etc.
In some sex shops, you can read false information about the healing and cleansing effects of cleaning the large intestine and, after training, possibly also the small intestine. A healthy body is adapted to properly get rid of excreted food residues. Enema with drinking water in a reasonable amount and frequency does not harm the body. An enema is not necessary for normal anal play with a penis up to 15 cm in size (sometimes even up to 20 cm depends on the current "fullness" of the body), or a light enema is sufficient and immediately excluded.
Drinking water can be used. Other liquid consumers, e.g. milk, tend to be less suitable from a hygienic point of view, but the body can handle them. It can be filled special irrigators - filling squeezing balloon, syringe, hanging bag, most comfortably with showers, but even a plastic kitchen funnel with a well-rounded edge. Lubricate the enema device.
TIP: If it's not hot, keep a sweater or a large dry towel or a hot air heater handy. It is necessary to be warm. You do not move, you are only partially clothed and the toilet is usually not one of the warmest rooms. The amount filled is individual according to the person and his current condition.
In hospitals, they make a rather strong enema, what the body can handle, e.g. 0.5 to 0.75 l. At home, it only makes sense if you want to attack your boundaries with the dimensions of the devices being introduced, or independently as SM/SubDom practice or as a supplement to sexual games, when the intestines filled with warm water will relax and intensify sensations during genital stimulation. Can be enhanced with an anal plug. The most effective – the shortest and least demanding deep enema technique is lubrication and deep insertion of a hose-like anal douche and simultaneous impregnation and excretion (approx. 10 to 15 minutes). Other techniques take up to an hour and are unnecessarily more irritating.
When excreting water from a deeper enema, the body tends to continue in stasis, but the water from the intestines has not yet "reached" the rectum, ie. that you have contractions that do not result in immediate excretion of water or excrement. These contractions need to be slightly suppressed "against the body's will" (soothe the sphincter and intestines) and leave the hole free until the moment of real need. Over time, you will learn a technique that suits you (eg combined partial and strong pushing when handling involuntary contractions) and you will manage it faster without any unpleasant feelings. At the end of the excretion, it is advisable to push while standing and cover the rectum with toilet paper. This will usually eliminate the last leftovers that would otherwise be released during sex games.
The untrained can hold from 0.75 to 1.5, a trained average tall man could handle 2 to 2.5 liters, when the limit will indicate pain in your gut (as if you want to vomit). You will find out for yourself what you can bear. After an enema, the rectum is more sensitive to abrasion, give it enough suitable greasy cream or lubricant.
As a rule, a deep enema will slightly reduce the desire for extreme training and the pleasantness of introducing aids. Therefore, use it only if the established aid pushes you due to insufficient emptying. You will know it emotionally.
Extreme anal practices
tools: TIME 1h or 2h every day, warm room, enema shower hose, LIPSALVE (very thick cream), possibly also an unscented water-based or silicone-based lubricant (not an oil-based lubricant - too thin - cuts the mucous membrane), soft anal plugs or dildos, a towel underneath
After the enema, we insert a little unperfumed deer tallow into the anus. It makes the walls of the anus and intestines slippery even if the standard lubricant gel dries up. Lubricant LIPSALVE it remains in the body even after training and helps tissue healing. For the same reason, deer tallow can also be applied to toys. At the beginning, we recommend introducing a thin long (e.g. double) dildo to relax the anus and the muscles around the anus and intestine. This also lubricates the mucous membrane with deer tallow. Only when switching to a stronger dildo can we add a classic gel to the deer tallow, if more slip is required. Thin long pins for depth expansion and thick shorter ones for width expansion can be alternated. The mucous membrane and the muscles around it will have time to relax.
From the opening image, you can see that the intestine curves to the left behind the anus from a person's own perspective. In principle, however, you never know at what angle the end of the inserted dildo is relative to the current section of tissue. You simply push the dildo in the direction where it doesn't hurt or hurts the least.
If you go through the pain, you will achieve better results in the short term, but the subsequent healing will cost you more than if you train without pain or with minimal pain. Pins thicker than 5 cm must be very soft, otherwise it is a waste of time and a higher risk of tissue damage.
TIP: Read more about The ideal hardness of the toy 7.5HC (hardness of relaxed muscle) and its advantages.
Even with an enema, it will take you about 45 minutes before you stretch out properly. It gets better while you are moving or masturbating and you end up very hot, similar to longer sex or fast walking. You will be left with a slight mess and you want to clean it first and then go to the shower in peace. Cleaning will wait. First, take a shower and get dressed to stay warm and comfortable. You also don't clean up after the run.
Pulling the rectum into the prolapse by a vacuum pump
It provides an interesting view - a temporary anal prolapse even for the less trained. It is necessary to dose and know safely how to leave the pump out of the air (reduce the vacuum). Try on yourself first. The line between pleasant and painful is relatively close. Even a low-power pump is enough.
What do not try
If you push the anal toy all the way into the intestine by bending the sigmoid colon (eg with another dildo), it may get stuck there. It pushes hard, but you can't go to the toilet like in a traffic jam. Our tester's body dealt with it after about 90 minutes. It was the first time he had been really afraid, despite his many drastic experiences. It was necessary to let it run its course and time, and it went by itself. If you still want to try, push the anal toy with the wider end first so that the narrower end in the sigmoid colon can come out more easily.
Risk of dyeing toys with excrement
Applies to light PVC toys. TPE and silicone toys basically don't suffer. A condom is unnecessarily expensive to protect toys. The condom also tears more in the aggressive and cramped space of the rectum. Especially on a device that is usually stiffer than a human penis and almost always on a large device. We recommend an enema and one piercing toy, which partly picks up and pulls out and partly pushes the excrement back into the intestines. These first excrements color the most. Toys are extra prone after consuming large amounts of alcohol, especially red wine.